funny how the older we get the wiser we think we are. when in reality i dont think we are any wiser than we were when we first started off. thats what i think about older asian parents. i think they think they are the wisest things on earth. sometimes they are wise... but most of the time theyre so chained down to tradition and what should be done.. the right path that should be taken that their words are anything but wise.
lemme give you an example. when i was a freshman i found out this girl i kinda knew was engaged. she was my age and this was her first boyfriend and they hadnt even been dating for a year. immediately i took the stance that my parents would- theyre not going to last. they'll be divorced within five years. now i am ashamed to even have thought that. what right do i have to think about when people will get divorced or anything like that. i've actually become decent friends with them and i see how much they love each other. how theyre not poor and starving, but live in a nice place, have PLENTY of food to eat and defintiely have enough money to live rather comfortably. it was a leap of faith that they took and God never let them down. i see it in the way they interact with one another, serve one another... they'll last for 500 more years.
everyone always spouts out about taking the road less traveled. hardly any of us do. we all go to college, God forbid you drop out and do something you ACTUALLY like. we all get married at the correct marrying age and we get a job we hate, but hey it pays the bills.
sometimes i think faith and religion takes the back seat to tradition and culture. people who go to church, read the verses about loving your neighbor and not judging others, come home and forbid their daughters and sons to marry outside the chinese/korean/viet/taiwanese/thai race. and it rubs off on us. where we can actually say- no i would NEVER consider marrying or even dating a non korean. when asked what was more important to a guy- her being taiwanese or christian he said taiwanese, because "she can always become a christian later." what in the world??
i hope that when i become an adult, have children that i will not cling to my old ways. i know that's so hard, that our parents dont mean to judge, to condemn, to lecture.. but it's the way they were brought up.. it's the way we are being brought up. i want to be open to new things, things that wouldnt make sense to a 40 year old woman, and step outside of my view, and put on someone else glasses for a change. because there is no formula to life, there is no one path everyone must walk down.
live your life differently. it's ok if you fall in love with someone who wont be able to buy you a bwm or 30 pair of jimmy choos. the important thing is he/she loves you and if God wants you with him/her then that's all you need to make it.
What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all--how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?
Romans 8:31-32